How to speak so that people want to listen | Julian Treasure | TED - YouTube

The human voice is a powerful tool, capable of starting wars or expressing love. However, many people feel that when they speak, no one listens. To speak powerfully and effect change, we must avoid certain habits. Here are the seven deadly sins of speaking:

1. Gossip - speaking ill of someone who's not present.
2. Judging - hard to listen to someone when you feel judged.
3. Negativity - a constant negative outlook is off-putting.
4. Complaining - it's like viral misery, spreading gloom.
5. Excuses - not taking responsibility for one's actions.
6. Exaggeration - which can lead to lying.
7. Dogmatism - confusing facts with opinions.

Instead, we should build our communication on four cornerstones, which spell out "HAIL":

• Honesty - being true and clear in what you say.
• Authenticity - being yourself and standing in your truth.
• Integrity - being your word and trustworthy.
• Love - wishing well to others, which makes it hard to judge them.

Our voice is an amazing toolbox that few have fully explored. To enhance our speaking power, we can use tools like register, timbre, prosody, pace, pitch, and volume. These can help us convey our message with more impact and emotion.

Warm up your voice before important talks with exercises like sighing, lip trills, tongue trills, and the siren sound. This prepares you to speak powerfully.

Imagine a world where we all speak powerfully, others listen consciously, and environments are designed for good acoustics. This would be a world that sounds beautiful, where understanding is the norm. That is an idea worth spreading. Thank you.

The original article: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=eIho2S0ZahI&list=PLV7xfBoJKBNQ3yhYgQRqocSWs1MKF7j0n&index=7